Believe it or not, heterosexual men are an essential component of most heterosexual relationships . Why do so many women think feminists, female oriented magazines, women like Oprah and manginas like Dr Phil understand the male half? Like Oprah is doing so great in her ';relationship'; with Stedman!
Ladies, in case you hadn't noticed yet, long term monogamous relationships are going the way of the dodo bird. You are following your clueless gurus off the edge of a cliff.
Good luck with all that.Why do women take their relationship advice primarily from other women?
The problem isn't from whom they are taking relationship advice per se, it is that they are asking for advice in the first place.
What I mean by this is that when you have a problem in your relationship you shouldn't be running about to all and sundry airing your dirty laundry and asking for ';advice';. What you should be doing is talking to your partner, not other people. And if that is not working then you need to seek help from a professional, not a friend.
And as for those morons like Dr. Phil and Oprah, they aren't there to help people, they are there to get ratings or sell their latest book. It is time for people to wake and understand that.Why do women take their relationship advice primarily from other women?
I take relationship advice from men or women depending on the level of their intellect and wisdom. But i do not take relationship advice from feminist because they wisdom is to destructive it can spirituality and emotionally damage your well being. It about time that women release that feminist teaching dose not do any good or justice all it dose is create misery.
People tend to forget that feminist is a philosophy(love of wisdom). Philosophy is about trying to find out the meaning of life coming up with theories about human nature, ethics, what is evil, what is good etc etc. Philosophers also question authorities. But feminist do not like to have they theories question or challenge a true philosophers thrives on argument and intellectual debate. The reason why i was just talking about philosophy because most advice feminist give to people come from they philosophical theories and i see a lot of errors in they theories about men. How can a women believe in a feminist ideology when feminist do not accept challenge from others philosophers what dose that tell you.
Unfortunately when many women seek ';advice'; they are really seeking reassurance/reinforcement of their current standpoint.
However, both men and women both seek the advice of members of the same sex when it comes to sexual and dating relationships. In general we are closer to our friends (and people) of the same sex because we feel we can relate to them and we feel more comfortable talking to them about personal situations. Women seek the advice of other women in hopes the other women have experienced a similar situation and have persevered, same for men.
Although talk show advice is geared more towards women, relationship and sexual advice can be found on the cover and in the pages of any male oriented magazine from Playboy to Men's Fitness.
In general men and women have a problem make and keeping solid relationships because most of us have yet to truly learn how to communicate properly with members of the opposite sex(this can be observed in our hesitance to speak with members of the opposite sex about our personal problems)
Women who do that do that because men can be brutally honest about such things. Men start giving solutions to issues which doesn't go well with women who whine 'Oh he's not a good listener'. Hey, you brought up an issue right? What then is the problem when men try to solve it?
A good idea ladies and gentlemen, when you have relationship issues with a member of your opposite sex, and if you're seeking advice, talk to people of the opposite sex. We aren't all beyond gender narcissism, however, the chances of getting smarter answers from them is higher. When I speak about my relationship issue with an another man, more often than not, he'd try to sympathize with me to make me feel good. But when I talk to an another girl about it, I have a better shot at getting to understand why they do it.
'he thought I was making a ';come on';.' -- I see that as an another issue. I wouldn't make a serious judgment based on the information you've given here. I see it as an exception rather than the rule. I mean -- women and men speak to me, and I'm not writing off women because there's the possibility that 'they're hitting on me'. I guess age and experience do matter.
In general, people tend to get all their advice from women.
But it's not unheard of for women to consult men regarding guy problems.
A person doesn't have to be male to understand men.
It's not true that long-term monogamous relationships are becoming extinct. Nor is it true that no men want them.
No everything in female oriented mags is written by women, BTW. But, as I say, it's not unheard of for females to understand males.
Often people will lie about their own gender in order to avoid embarrassment, so sometimes you have to assume that the information that you are getting is unreliable.
For example, some of the worst relationship advice I have ever gotten is from women who were trying to tell me what other women want. Women will lie and say that other women want ';nice'; guys (which we know from experience isn't true) because they are too embarrassed to admit to the truth. If you want to know what women really want, often you will only get the truth from men who have learned the hard way what kind of behaviors that the opposite sex really responds to (as opposed to what they SAY they respond to).
Likewise, men will often lie about what men really want, because some aspects of male behavior embarrass us as well, so will will often give the Politically Correct response, instead of being truthful. Experienced women might be more truthful about what actually worked, and what didn't, when it comes to her man (which she found out by trial and error).
I dont, I have about equal amounts of female and male friends so i get good advice from both genders pretty evenly. I dont think that monagamous relatiohships are becoming extinct. Most of my male friends want to settle down and have a family someday.
Actually the men give better relationship advice cause they are more blunt and not afraid of telling me something even if its not what i want to hear.
In the words of Dr. Phil...';How's that workin' out for ya?';
Know it all:
In my experience, when asking another man about my relationship problems, he thought I was making a ';come on';.
Actually, you really need to be careful asking the opposite sex about relationship problems, because they may take it the opposite way, as well. Meaning this may be my chance to hone in...offering advice like... ';Oh, it's not you...it's him. I've seen the way he treats you and you don't deserve that';
Maybe...I dunno, we prefer to ask people that have experienced our issues??! Sure, a man can offer his perspective on things and I appreciate that, but ultimately, I want advice from someone that knows what I've been through. And please stop relying on stereotypes to form your opinions. How many women do YOU know watch Dr. Phil just to get relationship advice? I rarely watch his show, and when I do, it's purely for entertainment. I haven't read 'O' magazine since 2006. And apparently Oprah is doing fine in her relationship. She's successful and they're stil together. Oh, I supposed it's because she's not married to him that makes you think she's not happy? Grow up.
Great point....but I would argue, it is not an even trade...generally men give better advice to women then vice versa....women tend to give advice that is advantageous to their gender, not necessarily to the asker (whom we would assume there is more loyalty to in most cases) I agree with Kayla...plus really most women don't want to compromise, they want what they want, even if it doesn't work for the man.
first of all male and female are not halve male is the key and female is the lock
although the lock needs much more digninity and respect than the key but the lock is functionless without the key so atleast give the key that much respect that it deserves otherwise the key shall die atleast untless you get a master key
Yes, but many men take their relationship advice from other men. Why is that?
And, besides that, just because a person dishes out advice to another person doesn't mean that person has to follow through.
We all our individuals with our own free thinking minds.
HAHAHA ';manginas like Dr Phil '; I totally agree with you.
I think it has to do with the fact that women feel more comfortable and confident when they give and take advice to women rather than men.
Its about time they take advice from both genders.
If women could get men to talk about relationships as much as the women do they'd be annoying men with their problems all the time.
They're taking it mostly from other women because they're the only ones listening.
You have a good point, but I think that sometimes women don't like a solution to their problem. I think they like to close their problem in such a way so that they feel good.
It is a multimillion dollar business, between the shows you mentioned and all the magazines. Why would thye want to try and change it. That might fix things then there would be no need for their products.
They're really just looking for attention and assurance that they are ';right'; about whatever is going on and that they are the ';victim'; of a ';mean'; boyfriend.... rather than actually trying to fix things.
I guess because they feel it's more ';relate-able';. Doesn't mean it's good advice, I'm just taking a guess they feel more comfortable asking another woman than a dude.
I prefer to ask reliable people of both genders.
I agree. It's like the blind leading the blind. It's interesting that in today's world, we have more self proclaimed experts but less wisdom.
Haha, that's so true. I believe this is relevant: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ZRflz-93鈥?/a>
Good point.
they don't
we do?
ty for the 411
i learn so much from these boards :D
so whats your point? i think women ask their friends because most adults mainly have friends of the same gender.
and whats wrong with oprah? i think she is smart not to marry. no need for her to give away half of her hard earned money.
i feel the same for these men that have these women that are half their age, marry them and then get screwed. it's not a smart move.
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