Why is it that much of the advice women give men in dating doesn't work?

~Being 'nice' and considerate, 100% reliable, altruistic etc..~ Why do women continue to give men proven bad advice in dating? --And also get very upset at the idea of another guy inciting men to try being 'jerks' or try certain tips or whatever... esp, when it seems the advice you yourselves give doesn't work? Why shouldn't guys try these other things?- why would you object to it, when it seems you are no good authority on the matter anyway?





What's the deal?Why is it that much of the advice women give men in dating doesn't work?
Two possiblities:





1. Women are deliberately deceptive about this.





2. Women are genuinely unaware of their own choices and preferences.





Or maybe a mix of the two.Why is it that much of the advice women give men in dating doesn't work?
If a guy askes me for advice on what women like I can only tell him what I know; which is what I personally like in a man. Since all women are different, what I like might not be what another woman likes. The only worse mistake you can make is asking another guy what women like. If I don't know and I am a woman, how will he know?





Just be yourself, whatever that may be and eventually you will find a woman who wants someone just like you.
because women don't know everything they want or other women want - it's hard to categories attributes they like in a guy when dating - and what do you mean by ';doesn't work';? Like somebody said it's not a science and it's a lot to do with how the two people get on and just trying to tick off some boxes won't help. It's all very confusing. Personally I think the best advice is just to be yourself





Harriet
There are two reasons for this that I can think of. The first is the fact that all women are different and you will sometimes need personalized advice for each girl. The second is that maybe some guys might take the advice too seriously or too far and go all freaky. The best thing to do is just be yourself and try to be polite and considerate without being scary or weird.
I'd say it's likely you're asking advice to find a certain type of woman, but in reality you'd like something altogether different, so you're not satisfied with the results.





Or, you're asking women who are sabotaging your efforts and need to ask women who are actually trying to help you, not hinder you.





Hope that helps =o)
It depends on your motives I guess. If you want to date someone, get to know them, have a relationship with them then it works. If you just want to use the woman for sex maybe it won't work so well.


I don't go out of my way to be 'nice' I just be myself. I can't advise you to be yourself because you seem childish, selfish and ignorant. Stick to your hand rather than whining for advice.
No idea.





But I suspect nothing you do will 'work'.





Women look at you and see a guy with 'user' written all over him, and think you need to spend time with yourself before progressing to actual human relationships.





Stick to rubber women, they're much easier to 'get' than real human people.





Cheers :-)
All women say they like nice guys because it is the politically correct thing to say and it makes them look classy. But we all know that they desire jerks and deadbeats. My advice would be to forget about women and let women live miserable lives with their jerks.
You hear about jerks getting girls.





You hear about long happy marriages with ordinary people





No long happy marriages with jerks.





That was easy.





Men, if you want to have short painful flings or rocky relationships


be a jerk.





If you want real love, be a real lover.
Being a jerk may get you some nukki from the idiots however even the idiots will eventually leave you.





I don't think it is being nice and considerate that doesn't work, I think it is pretending to be these things that doesn't.
because they secretly want u to be with them, therefore they tell u bad advice, so when you come to them saying tht thier advice didnt work(which they already new it wuldnt) they can comfort u and and u start to like them and then 2 start dating and it all goes from there
I gather you're only interested in immature girls of low self-esteem; that's what your advisers don't realize; they seem to be operating under the assumption that you're a human being.





Those who are human beings object to sub-humans mistreating other people.
They want to want a nice guy or they like to think they want a nice guy.





Buut really they just want whatever it is that they want.
Because women think they want one thing, but what pushes their buttons is another.
im sure that is not true but to answer your q- it is bc we are women and most of us dont date women, just bc im a women doesnt mean I know what women want,lol
It's an art, not a science. Different people like different things. Be yourself and the right girl will find you.
Because not all women are the same. Kinda like all guys aren't the same.... hmm....
they tell you to be nice so in the long run, when your older, you'll be perfect
because women are not as smart as men