i am 36 weeks pregnant and found out that lately my hubby has started looking at all kinds of porn again. i have asked him am i that ugly or am i just not meeting his needs or what??? my hubby wakes up 2 to 3 hrs early every morning before going to work used to be to play his online game wow wich i also play but now hes getting up early to look at porn. y am i bad for feeling hurt?? i even told him if it was a lack of meeting his needs wake me up or something ill be glad to cuddle or what ever but he still ignores me in the intamacy department and is still looking at all kinds of porn. what do i do am i over reacting or am i allowed to feel hurt being as weve been married 11 yrs and im due any day with his 3rd sonWomen advice needed? what do i do?
That is one thing I hate about computers. But anyways, I'd just make it plain and clear to your husband that you and your kids come first over anything disgusting like that. He is to be another father again and would he like his kids looking at that crap on the computer. I would be VERY blunt with him and I'd be so pissed if I were you sweetie. And yes I would feel very hurt too. I would feel unwanted and discouraged. I hope things work out for you. Shame on him.Women advice needed? what do i do?
Most men go to porn at this stage in pregnancy and a large amount of women masturbate at this point. Men quit out of fear of hurting the baby.
Imagen being a guy that is sticking his body part inside where a baby comes out of. And seeing the baby moving in the belly...
hee beee jeee beees for a guy.
He'll come back just relax and be confident.
Wow. I would be angry too, I don't blame you. The fact that he does that even though he knows how you feel about it just shows that he doesn't care about your feelings. He should be EXTRA sensitive to your feelings right now.
Just because he's looking at porn doesn't mean he's lost any emotional connection with you. I'm sure men aren't too sexually attracted to pregnant woman, so until your baby comes out, he's resorting to porn.
I know what you mean i caught my husband waking up way to early as well, but hey don't take it the wrong way. Just come on to him, when he's sleeping ;0)
Pornography is one of the most dangerous Leeches in a Marriage. More dangerous than alcohol and gambling addiction (my opinion). Lust is something that is very difficult for men to fight. If a man says he has no problems with lust, he has more wisdom than King Solomon and more strength than King David (Biblical Men).
I fought that addiction for years and have finally defeated it. My source of strength and success? The Bible. Your husband has to understand that Lust is something he will have to battle for the rest of his life. You can not get rid of it. He can't do it alone. He needs a source of strength and encouragement. Pray for him. Take him to Church. Ask your Pastor for help. Ask God for help.
Do not give up on him. Especially after 11 long years. He can still appreciate you for who you really are. He can still be the most wonderful husband for you and your wonderful kids.
Friday, April 30, 2010
WOMEN ADVICE for Drunk Aftermath Please?
So I got really drunk last Saturday and then invited a girl that i knew over to my room and she showed up drunk too. So i put in a movie and before i knew it we were on top of each other and things got interesting.
This girl and me never really got to the point of being friends, we met a few months back and only say hi or a friendly conversation here and there. but i forgot that we had a class together 3 days a week.
My idea was to ignore the event as if it never happened since both of us were incredibly inebriated and not in a normal state. i feel like my first contact was played very cool by me but she got really awkward. It seems that she may have gotten more comfortable around me, but it may be a facade.
This is my first experience with a one night stand, i could really use some advice towards what is possibly going through her head and what to do to make things somewhat normal when we see each otherWOMEN ADVICE for Drunk Aftermath Please?
She might be really embarrassed and doesn't know how to act around you now or what to expect. I would talk to her about it if I were you. Girls like to talk things out. I had a similar experience after which he pretended he didn't remember much and refused to discuss anything, which upset me.
This girl and me never really got to the point of being friends, we met a few months back and only say hi or a friendly conversation here and there. but i forgot that we had a class together 3 days a week.
My idea was to ignore the event as if it never happened since both of us were incredibly inebriated and not in a normal state. i feel like my first contact was played very cool by me but she got really awkward. It seems that she may have gotten more comfortable around me, but it may be a facade.
This is my first experience with a one night stand, i could really use some advice towards what is possibly going through her head and what to do to make things somewhat normal when we see each otherWOMEN ADVICE for Drunk Aftermath Please?
She might be really embarrassed and doesn't know how to act around you now or what to expect. I would talk to her about it if I were you. Girls like to talk things out. I had a similar experience after which he pretended he didn't remember much and refused to discuss anything, which upset me.
Women advice plz !!:S?
hey x
erm i have a prob over the last few days i get like a few twinges in my vagina and itchiness i think it could be vaginal thrush, but im not sure..
Ive had discharge now again and sometimes i can smell it, but recently i have been itchin,im only 16 and have brought some canesten, it seems to have got a bit better but stil not ryt, i have internal canesten, is it safe to use if it turned out i didnt have vaginal thrush im really worried. I havent had sex either
can anybody give me sum serious advice no nasty comments
really appreciated
thanksWomen advice plz !!:S?
Usually if you have thrush, you get a hot itchy and burning vagina. the itching is unbearable. You also get a thick chucky white discharge form the yeast growing rapidly.
You can use Canesten if you havent got it, but if it doesnt clear up, you should see your GPO. If you are sexually active, it could be an STI which needs to be looked at.
Other than that, drink lots of water, never use talcum powder or perfumed soap down there and wear full cotton knickers. xWomen advice plz !!:S?
Its called bacterial vaginosis Folic acid 3 times a day and hyrodgen peroxide douche with water. out side candidas selenium, zinc, folic acid 3 times a day go to earth clinic com read more on baterial vaginosis and candida its a natural remedy web site. these vitimins have worked for me....
Don't worry lovely. It won't be anything serious, it really sounds like thrush. HOWEVER I would definately do what the other person suggests and go and see a doctor, it's always best to be safe than sorry.
Good luckxx
You need to see your doctor so they can do a culture. It could be an STD called chlamydia (sp?). It's not serious if caught early. Left untouched the symptoms will clear up but you can become sterile. It will plug up your tubes.
go see a gynocologist.
I would tell your parents or see a doctor.
erm i have a prob over the last few days i get like a few twinges in my vagina and itchiness i think it could be vaginal thrush, but im not sure..
Ive had discharge now again and sometimes i can smell it, but recently i have been itchin,im only 16 and have brought some canesten, it seems to have got a bit better but stil not ryt, i have internal canesten, is it safe to use if it turned out i didnt have vaginal thrush im really worried. I havent had sex either
can anybody give me sum serious advice no nasty comments
really appreciated
thanksWomen advice plz !!:S?
Usually if you have thrush, you get a hot itchy and burning vagina. the itching is unbearable. You also get a thick chucky white discharge form the yeast growing rapidly.
You can use Canesten if you havent got it, but if it doesnt clear up, you should see your GPO. If you are sexually active, it could be an STI which needs to be looked at.
Other than that, drink lots of water, never use talcum powder or perfumed soap down there and wear full cotton knickers. xWomen advice plz !!:S?
Its called bacterial vaginosis Folic acid 3 times a day and hyrodgen peroxide douche with water. out side candidas selenium, zinc, folic acid 3 times a day go to earth clinic com read more on baterial vaginosis and candida its a natural remedy web site. these vitimins have worked for me....
Don't worry lovely. It won't be anything serious, it really sounds like thrush. HOWEVER I would definately do what the other person suggests and go and see a doctor, it's always best to be safe than sorry.
Good luckxx
You need to see your doctor so they can do a culture. It could be an STD called chlamydia (sp?). It's not serious if caught early. Left untouched the symptoms will clear up but you can become sterile. It will plug up your tubes.
go see a gynocologist.
I would tell your parents or see a doctor.
Women advice on tampons?
i have had my period for a little less than i year and im 14.. all of my friends say how much better tampons are than pads.. and i hate pads. i want to start using tampons but im very nervous. im so scared that i will accidentally put it up the wrong hole..i know the RIGHT hole is right at the tip of the clitorous (idk how 2 spell it) at least i think? am i right? i just get so nervous when it comes to actually putting it up.. the furthest i got was about half an inch.. which is pathetic. my friends say just do it.. but its easier said then done. i have also heard (from my sister) that it is easier lying down.. is that true? what is the easiest way to do it? i know that i was born a women and basically born to do this so why cant i? how can i calm myself down? is that the right hole? ( i know there is only 2 others... and can u actually see your pee hole or is it covered by the citorous?) the first time my sister had to put a tampon in, my mom had to do it for her! and im just too embarassed to ask her.. what should i do... thank you!Women advice on tampons?
Your fears are perfectly warranted! I was scared and I put it in wrong the first time and sat down and scream bloody murder it hurt so bad. In the box there is a drawing of how to do it so you should practice using that as a guide, just not while you are menstruating, that can get messy! I find it easier to sit on the toilet, slightly lifting one leg, and sort of jiggling it in. Make sure you start off with the lightness one. I believe there are some for teens that are skinny and should slide in with little effort. As for the hole, you can鈥檛 really miss which hole to put it in. It鈥檚 the one closer to the anus. Make sure you remember to take it out within 8 hours as to not risk TSS (toxic shock syndrome), believe it or not they can not be felt and you might forget about it. Once you do it a while, it will be second nature to you so don鈥檛 worry about it. When you are putting relax your body because if you are tense it might not be able to get it in and you might hurt yourself.
You鈥檒l do great
Women advice on tampons?
it may hurt the first time because of the hymin, but no it dosn't hurt, the right hole? well what i did was take the tampon and see if it could fit in a hole (your pee hole isn't big enough)i did it slow, just to see how far it would go, after a few times of being late to class you will be able to do it fast and painless. hope this helps!
first off, relax. I was nervous too. I started using them this summer. It doesnt hurt if u relax and do it slow. also, if ur unsure about which hole to put it in, what I did was, find the hole where the blo0od is coming out of. then slide it in. also, its easy to put one foot on the toilet or spread ur knees. cause think about it, u cant lie down if u change ur tamp0n in a bathroom stall
Just take it slow.
If you don't have an anatomy book, then you could take one out at the library. Or even just look at it there and not take it out if you're too embarrassed.
And you can find girl's sites online too even.
Yes, it did pinch the first time I put it in. But don't go fast, because I think that might make it feel worse.
But once you get it over with, it's no big deal and it never hurts again.
I'm the only one of my sisters who uses tampons. The other two are too afraid to try them, and one's 15 while the other one's 20.
Many years ago, there WERE no tampons. They're just another option. Don't think that you MUST use them, because you certainly don't.
i got my period when i was 12 and couldnt use a tampon until i was 15! so dont worry, its pretty much impossible to put it in your pee hole, its too small. but when you get it in make sure you take the cardboard off! my cousin failed to tell me that when she taught me and it completely didn't work and kept slipping out.(i was at the beach lol, very embarassing) Just relax and no it doesnt hurt, once its in you cant even feel it. do it at whatever pace suits you
okay;
i'm 13 and i started using tampons this past summer and i started my period back in January.
listen the first few times i tried i would put it in about an half inch like you said and then pull it out reall quick! haha, but i ignored it for awhile. finally i found a way that helps me. okay get the tampax pearl version, they slide in real easily. so then i sit on the toilet just find where to put it and slowly slide it in. it doesn't hurt, but may feel a little uncomfy. when you think its right just push that applicator thingy and wa-lah! haha.
and trust me the first time i put it in, i did it wrong! it hurt when i sat and everything lol.
(and no it doesn't hurt, just may be uncomfortable)
GOOD LUCK!!
I think you need to get a mirror and an anatomy picture. The vagina is the middle hole...between the anus and clitoris. If you spread your ';lips'; open you will most likely see where the tampon is meant to go. It does not go in the tiny gap under your clitoris, the vagina is bigger than that, if you have your period look for where the blood is coming from.
Yes your sister is correct, lying down opens up the vagina and makes it easier, as does breathing out which relaxes the muscles. Use some vaseline or lube if you havent got menstrual blood to lubricate the tampon.
It usually takes a few tries to get it right...no it does not hurt but it can pinch if you are not slippery with blood. Be calm its no big deal.
Your fears are perfectly warranted! I was scared and I put it in wrong the first time and sat down and scream bloody murder it hurt so bad. In the box there is a drawing of how to do it so you should practice using that as a guide, just not while you are menstruating, that can get messy! I find it easier to sit on the toilet, slightly lifting one leg, and sort of jiggling it in. Make sure you start off with the lightness one. I believe there are some for teens that are skinny and should slide in with little effort. As for the hole, you can鈥檛 really miss which hole to put it in. It鈥檚 the one closer to the anus. Make sure you remember to take it out within 8 hours as to not risk TSS (toxic shock syndrome), believe it or not they can not be felt and you might forget about it. Once you do it a while, it will be second nature to you so don鈥檛 worry about it. When you are putting relax your body because if you are tense it might not be able to get it in and you might hurt yourself.
You鈥檒l do great
Women advice on tampons?
it may hurt the first time because of the hymin, but no it dosn't hurt, the right hole? well what i did was take the tampon and see if it could fit in a hole (your pee hole isn't big enough)i did it slow, just to see how far it would go, after a few times of being late to class you will be able to do it fast and painless. hope this helps!
first off, relax. I was nervous too. I started using them this summer. It doesnt hurt if u relax and do it slow. also, if ur unsure about which hole to put it in, what I did was, find the hole where the blo0od is coming out of. then slide it in. also, its easy to put one foot on the toilet or spread ur knees. cause think about it, u cant lie down if u change ur tamp0n in a bathroom stall
Just take it slow.
If you don't have an anatomy book, then you could take one out at the library. Or even just look at it there and not take it out if you're too embarrassed.
And you can find girl's sites online too even.
Yes, it did pinch the first time I put it in. But don't go fast, because I think that might make it feel worse.
But once you get it over with, it's no big deal and it never hurts again.
I'm the only one of my sisters who uses tampons. The other two are too afraid to try them, and one's 15 while the other one's 20.
Many years ago, there WERE no tampons. They're just another option. Don't think that you MUST use them, because you certainly don't.
i got my period when i was 12 and couldnt use a tampon until i was 15! so dont worry, its pretty much impossible to put it in your pee hole, its too small. but when you get it in make sure you take the cardboard off! my cousin failed to tell me that when she taught me and it completely didn't work and kept slipping out.(i was at the beach lol, very embarassing) Just relax and no it doesnt hurt, once its in you cant even feel it. do it at whatever pace suits you
okay;
i'm 13 and i started using tampons this past summer and i started my period back in January.
listen the first few times i tried i would put it in about an half inch like you said and then pull it out reall quick! haha, but i ignored it for awhile. finally i found a way that helps me. okay get the tampax pearl version, they slide in real easily. so then i sit on the toilet just find where to put it and slowly slide it in. it doesn't hurt, but may feel a little uncomfy. when you think its right just push that applicator thingy and wa-lah! haha.
and trust me the first time i put it in, i did it wrong! it hurt when i sat and everything lol.
(and no it doesn't hurt, just may be uncomfortable)
GOOD LUCK!!
I think you need to get a mirror and an anatomy picture. The vagina is the middle hole...between the anus and clitoris. If you spread your ';lips'; open you will most likely see where the tampon is meant to go. It does not go in the tiny gap under your clitoris, the vagina is bigger than that, if you have your period look for where the blood is coming from.
Yes your sister is correct, lying down opens up the vagina and makes it easier, as does breathing out which relaxes the muscles. Use some vaseline or lube if you havent got menstrual blood to lubricate the tampon.
It usually takes a few tries to get it right...no it does not hurt but it can pinch if you are not slippery with blood. Be calm its no big deal.
What advice would you give to a catholic women who believes she has sinned because she divorced her husband?
Her husband systematically abused her for two years.What advice would you give to a catholic women who believes she has sinned because she divorced her husband?
Divorce is not a sin. Remarriage without having received an annulment is a sin.
Whether or not she has grounds for an annulment I can't say because that depends on whether the husband ever intended to enter a valid sacramental marriage. She would have to discuss this with a priest.
If she does not get remarried she has not committed a sin and is welcome to participate fully in Church including receiving the Eucharist.What advice would you give to a catholic women who believes she has sinned because she divorced her husband?
%26lt;%26lt;What advice would you give to a catholic women who believes she has sinned because she divorced her husband?%26gt;%26gt;
I would say, find out for sure whether or not she really has sinned. It's entirely possible a sin has not been committed and that there is nothing to worry about. However, it's also possible she has, and wouldn't she like to know for sure, for peace of mind, if for no other reason?
Let's assume the marriage is valid. A valid marital bond CANNOT be undone. Legally, and for practical reasons, a legal divorce is necessary - but a legal divorce has no bearing on the marital bond.
%26lt;%26lt;Her husband systematically abused her for two years.%26gt;%26gt;
It's not wrong for a married couple to be separated - especially in situations where one spouse is abusing another. However, merely being separated doesn't mean the marital bond is dissolved. Neither spouse can engage in courtship, lest they committ adultery.
What you really need to do is speak directly with a priest - and tell him EVERYTHING. The more you are willing to disclose to the priest, the more relevant his help and advice will be.
None until I talked with her and found out more.
While there are women who are abused by their husbands, there are just as many men who are abused by their wives.
A higher percentage of women abuse their own children than men.
75% of the time when a woman claims abuse, its done just to gain an advantage in a divorce she wants for other reasons.
Which is why I'd want to talk to her first.
I'd also want to talk to her ex and their children.
I know a lady who divorced her husband claiming he was abusive, yet the children said, ';We want to live with Dad!';
The court agreed and awarded the Dad sole custody of the children.
14 years after this lady went to court the first of many times complaining about her abusive husband, one of their children got married.
Dad was at the wedding, but the Mom was not.
So do you see why I would want to talk to her first?
This is tricky, because we are told that what God has bound cannot be broken, but the husband had obviously not taken his own vows seriously when he gave them to your friend.
My advice? Tell her to talk to her parish priest. There are also groups for those who are suffering through divorce that she could join and work with. The priest is not going to condemn her, but he can certainly give her spiritual advice and tell her the Church's teachings and the Bible's teachings about divorce and, more importantly, her situation.
Here's a few sites:
http://www.divorceinfo.com/catholic.htm
http://insidecatholic.com/Joomla/index.p鈥?/a>
This one is very helpful:
http://www.divorcedcatholic.com/
This is from the same site as above, just their answers page, which I think will really help her:
http://www.divorcedcatholic.com/divorced鈥?/a>
I would just tell her, that probably isnt the place she needs to be. If the church is going to reject her and in the long run 'turn her away' from God, that's not right.
My mother went thru a divorce and she doesnt like going to her (catholic) church anymore because she feels like the shun her. I just dont agree with the catholic church at all.
ugh, it makes me mad.
That's a tough situation. Especially with abuse involved. :/
I mean, truthfully, the only time divorce is NOT a sin is in the case of infidelity. (This is in the Bible. Sorry.)
But we all sin. Every day. That doesn't make it any better... but it should reassure her that life goes on, and Jesus offers hope for forgiveness.
Though I'm not Catholic, I am a Christian, and this is how I believe it works: Sin or not, God still loves her, still cares for her, and still hurts when she hurts. She needs to just ask Him for forgiveness, and move on the best that she can, trying not to sin again. That's the same way you'd treat any sin, really.
She must be going through a lot of pain right now, and guilt over sin just makes it all feel even worse. :(
You tell her that she did the right thing!!! She sure can go to her parish priest too, and he will tell her the same thing.
No woman is to be ';married'; to someone abusing her, that is no marriage, anyway. That is some kind of wacko bondage.
God is not for that.
If she believes she sinned, she should go to confession. The priest will assure her that she has not sinned by protecting herself (and her kids). She probably wouldn't believe anybody else.
She needs to keep on living. Many Christians are divorced because it takes 2 to make a marriage.
I'd tell her that even if she sinned, everyone sins, and Jesus blood cleanses those sins so don't sweat it any longer.
Don't even talk about religion, that is doing good for her already!
fight the real enemyphilosophy
Divorce is not a sin. Remarriage without having received an annulment is a sin.
Whether or not she has grounds for an annulment I can't say because that depends on whether the husband ever intended to enter a valid sacramental marriage. She would have to discuss this with a priest.
If she does not get remarried she has not committed a sin and is welcome to participate fully in Church including receiving the Eucharist.What advice would you give to a catholic women who believes she has sinned because she divorced her husband?
%26lt;%26lt;What advice would you give to a catholic women who believes she has sinned because she divorced her husband?%26gt;%26gt;
I would say, find out for sure whether or not she really has sinned. It's entirely possible a sin has not been committed and that there is nothing to worry about. However, it's also possible she has, and wouldn't she like to know for sure, for peace of mind, if for no other reason?
Let's assume the marriage is valid. A valid marital bond CANNOT be undone. Legally, and for practical reasons, a legal divorce is necessary - but a legal divorce has no bearing on the marital bond.
%26lt;%26lt;Her husband systematically abused her for two years.%26gt;%26gt;
It's not wrong for a married couple to be separated - especially in situations where one spouse is abusing another. However, merely being separated doesn't mean the marital bond is dissolved. Neither spouse can engage in courtship, lest they committ adultery.
What you really need to do is speak directly with a priest - and tell him EVERYTHING. The more you are willing to disclose to the priest, the more relevant his help and advice will be.
None until I talked with her and found out more.
While there are women who are abused by their husbands, there are just as many men who are abused by their wives.
A higher percentage of women abuse their own children than men.
75% of the time when a woman claims abuse, its done just to gain an advantage in a divorce she wants for other reasons.
Which is why I'd want to talk to her first.
I'd also want to talk to her ex and their children.
I know a lady who divorced her husband claiming he was abusive, yet the children said, ';We want to live with Dad!';
The court agreed and awarded the Dad sole custody of the children.
14 years after this lady went to court the first of many times complaining about her abusive husband, one of their children got married.
Dad was at the wedding, but the Mom was not.
So do you see why I would want to talk to her first?
This is tricky, because we are told that what God has bound cannot be broken, but the husband had obviously not taken his own vows seriously when he gave them to your friend.
My advice? Tell her to talk to her parish priest. There are also groups for those who are suffering through divorce that she could join and work with. The priest is not going to condemn her, but he can certainly give her spiritual advice and tell her the Church's teachings and the Bible's teachings about divorce and, more importantly, her situation.
Here's a few sites:
http://www.divorceinfo.com/catholic.htm
http://insidecatholic.com/Joomla/index.p鈥?/a>
This one is very helpful:
http://www.divorcedcatholic.com/
This is from the same site as above, just their answers page, which I think will really help her:
http://www.divorcedcatholic.com/divorced鈥?/a>
I would just tell her, that probably isnt the place she needs to be. If the church is going to reject her and in the long run 'turn her away' from God, that's not right.
My mother went thru a divorce and she doesnt like going to her (catholic) church anymore because she feels like the shun her. I just dont agree with the catholic church at all.
ugh, it makes me mad.
That's a tough situation. Especially with abuse involved. :/
I mean, truthfully, the only time divorce is NOT a sin is in the case of infidelity. (This is in the Bible. Sorry.)
But we all sin. Every day. That doesn't make it any better... but it should reassure her that life goes on, and Jesus offers hope for forgiveness.
Though I'm not Catholic, I am a Christian, and this is how I believe it works: Sin or not, God still loves her, still cares for her, and still hurts when she hurts. She needs to just ask Him for forgiveness, and move on the best that she can, trying not to sin again. That's the same way you'd treat any sin, really.
She must be going through a lot of pain right now, and guilt over sin just makes it all feel even worse. :(
You tell her that she did the right thing!!! She sure can go to her parish priest too, and he will tell her the same thing.
No woman is to be ';married'; to someone abusing her, that is no marriage, anyway. That is some kind of wacko bondage.
God is not for that.
If she believes she sinned, she should go to confession. The priest will assure her that she has not sinned by protecting herself (and her kids). She probably wouldn't believe anybody else.
She needs to keep on living. Many Christians are divorced because it takes 2 to make a marriage.
I'd tell her that even if she sinned, everyone sins, and Jesus blood cleanses those sins so don't sweat it any longer.
Don't even talk about religion, that is doing good for her already!
fight the real enemy
I NEED SOME WOMEN ADVICE!!!!!!!?
I have been with the love of my life fro the past year....We spent every single day with each other....We embraced our love each day....We would say, I love you to each other. It was truly magical.....I love her with all of my heart.....She broke up with me about 2 weeks ago due to my low self confidence.... We still love each other though?
Do you think we will ever be back with each other?
Should I avoid her at wherever I go?
What should I do ladies?I NEED SOME WOMEN ADVICE!!!!!!!?
Well if you really love her, then you should work on your self confidence. If you try really hard and then try to re-woo her back into your arms, you guys can become an item once again. don't avoid her but don't forget you guys are no longer together and it's still recent. wave to her hi but don't pretend that everything is alright. Just say hi and walk away under five minutes. Relax, there is still hope but don't smother her or ignore her. smile at her and say hello but don't try to get into a deep conversation with her. give both of you time to breathe by yourselves. don't worry, work on your confidence and you can win her back.
answer mine!!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>I NEED SOME WOMEN ADVICE!!!!!!!?
Ya, I would defintely try to goet back with her. Good luck! ;)
well i think that she will definitely get back with u if she still loves you..and i don't think avoiding her will do you well if u wanna get back with her so i hope u to go well and good luck she'll come back don't worry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
In my opinion I think you should not try to avoid her because it will make her think that you don't love her anymore. I also think yah will get back together. Don't stress over it, it will be fine. :)
first you need to have more confidence in youself And when you do build that confidence up. show her that you build that confidence. Other than getting back together that's up to her. If avoiding her in the meantime so you can fix your confidence then do so.
just tell her how much she means to you and that will taker away..tell her why you guys should go back with each other... and if she is with someone else dont take it the wrong way she probably wanted you to be jealous:0
help me i need some boy advice???? easy 10 points
Take it slow but go for it. Try to prove that you are working on your self confidence so she knows that you are trying to do this for her.
But you should try to get back with her because if the spark is still there, there should be nothing to worry about.
please answer my question i need a boys point of view on my situation.
do NOT avoid her! just try to be friends for now and maybe thing'll patch over. you should gain some self confidence and that'll def. help the situation, just know you are a great guy and stuff like(even though i cant say that cuz i dont know u)once you gain some confidence prove to her you have
for now i'd just try to remain friends with her
I could see your problem right through! its not because of low self confidence.. you are too clingy man! and she wanted someone who is not clingy.,, Dont cry or get depressed go ahead with your life like nothing happened and pursue something greater. Dont be clingY! that drives chicks away.. she willl come back to you as soon as she finds out that you have other imp things to do in your life as well.. Remember clingy is the worst thing you could be in life.. no matter what it is
MAN! you need to think first. do you still love her? if so you NEED to go right to her, tell her about your low self confidence! (if she doesnt know) tell her you want her back and you think about her all the time.(if thats true)
you guys seemed like you really liked each other and i would try whatever it takes to get back with her.
If you still love her, then don't avoid her. It will make her think you have lost interest and that you don't love her anymore. If I were you try and get your self confidence up. If she was dating you then she obviously must find you attractive. I hate to say it I don't feel like giving tons of tips on how to get self confidence, so maybe post another question asking how to boost your self confidence or how to get self confidence. If I were you don't avoid her, and gain self confidence so you can get her back because you love her. Let her know it's something you want to work on and also that it's hurtful that she left you for that. Let her know how bad it hurts her dumping you and ask her to put herself in your place.
be confident, don't change the way you are around her, apart from like sexually lol
and defs don't avoid her, its gay, and always shows. ;)
good luck
Send her a special bouquet of roses with a note like: ';I love you always, Please, help me to believe in myself. I cannot do it without you, then your name...';
Wow, that's dumb. Leaving a guy because of his low self confidence.
Well, I was in a similar situation cept the self confidence part. I'd ask the girl straight up, like, is this permanent? Are we still friends? Like, where do you guys stand with each other? Just get some answers. And it's best to stay away from her for a little, yes.
Sometimes spending every single day with each other, can be a burden, no space at all, it would drive me crazy! most likely you can get her back just doing the opposite of what you did before, and when she is around you, treat her good but not overly nice, and go out with other girls as friends that will show her that 1. she can be replaced, 2.you still have what it takes to attract other women, and it shows confidence in yourself..my best wishes
Get higher self confidence.
I can't say if you will be back together. I don't know you or her or the whole situation. Plus I'm not a psychic.
But yeah, boost your self confidence. If you don't get her back, move on and find someone new.
If you love her, show her. The best way to show you have self confidence is to show that you have confidence in the fact that you are competant enough to make her happy. Go get em tiger!!
let her know all that you just said. obviously shes like your world let her know that. and in the meantime work on your self confidence. she obviously thinks your an amazing guy if she told you she loves you. dont avoid her if you want her back talk to her
give her some space then in that time try to man up a bit then oneday call her and ask her if she'd like to go out to dinner or something
try to gain more self confidence and do something to show her that you have. don't do it JUST for her though- also do it for yourself. don't brag about yourself but don't put yourself down when you talk to other people. i think there is a chance you two could be together again. :)
u will get back together but u need 2 show her that u boosted ur self confidence but don't sound desperate doing it.
be everything to her that you were but no kissing or anything be there for her and talk to her about everything or act how you two did when you are daiting but nothing more than friends.
If you want to get back with her you need to sit down and talk to her. A person who loves you loves you flaws and all. At the same time it is important for anyone man or woman to have confidence in themselves and not just their relationship. You cannot put everything into a relationship or another person. You are a man first and foremost so developer a backbone and self confidence but ask her to help you along the way. But at the same time a year is a milestone and if I loved a man I would help him not break up with him to force confidence on him. I believe a woman should be a builder just like a man. Because when a strong foundation is built and people grow together confidence comes with it. Look at the man in the mirror and tell yourself how much you appreciate you daily. It helps. I have been there and done that as a woman and now I am fearless, compassionate, shrewd, firm but yet loving. It starts with self but sometimes as women we can make a man better if he wants to be. Good luck and I wish you the best.
Same thing happened to me but im kinda the girl so yeah. We still talked and stuff and eventually i realized that i did love him and i did want to be with him. IDK if it will work for u but if she really loves u and u love her give it time and if its ment to be it will be.
I would say, try staying friends. If you really want her back, show her what she wants to see- show her you can be confident. Try new things, and don`t give up when you don`t succeed- not everyone is great at something on their first try.
Most importantly: Love yourself before you let anyone else love you.
It seems like a really simple thing to say, but it really matters. It`s incredibly hard to love someone who doubts themselves all the time and looks down upon them self.
If you`re really desperate to get her back, do what I said in the 1st paragraph and show her you can be confident, then, on the side, you will start to learn to love yourself. It takes a while, trust me. But eventually you will get pretty good at it.
What I did when I tried to get over my lack of self confidence is keep my mind occupied with things other than what makes me feel down about myself. Keep yourself busy and avoid things that make you sad about yourself. ;P
-Sorry, that was really long. Lol. Good luck! :]
do not avoid make sure you aknowladge her presence
i think that you will definatly get back together because you can fix your low confidence but if somthing so simple will trigger her into breaking up than i would watch my back to see what bothers her so you can fix it and you guys can love each other as much as you want
hope that helps!!!
build up your self confindece! Be confident that you can get her back and she will appreciate that in you. go tell your woman that you love her and you don't want to be without her! Even if she says no, you were brave and obviously she wasn't the one. there are other fish in the sea. But i bet she will say yes.
Well why would u want her back,she should love you for ur good and bad.Not everyone is perfect,hopefully she will realize it was wrong to dump you for an odd reason and come back to you.(If that's what you want) and if she doesn't come to her senses one day you will meet someone who loves you for your ups and downs.Just remember its her loss good luck!
She left you because of your low self esteem, so what have you done in that department? Have you tried feeling better about yourself, taking charge of your relationship, talking to her about how you will change or what you want in the relationship? When you see her, don't avoid her but show her you are sure of yourself by saying hi and asking how she is doing. Good luck
i'm bored.
Do you think we will ever be back with each other?
Should I avoid her at wherever I go?
What should I do ladies?I NEED SOME WOMEN ADVICE!!!!!!!?
Well if you really love her, then you should work on your self confidence. If you try really hard and then try to re-woo her back into your arms, you guys can become an item once again. don't avoid her but don't forget you guys are no longer together and it's still recent. wave to her hi but don't pretend that everything is alright. Just say hi and walk away under five minutes. Relax, there is still hope but don't smother her or ignore her. smile at her and say hello but don't try to get into a deep conversation with her. give both of you time to breathe by yourselves. don't worry, work on your confidence and you can win her back.
answer mine!!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>I NEED SOME WOMEN ADVICE!!!!!!!?
Ya, I would defintely try to goet back with her. Good luck! ;)
well i think that she will definitely get back with u if she still loves you..and i don't think avoiding her will do you well if u wanna get back with her so i hope u to go well and good luck she'll come back don't worry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
In my opinion I think you should not try to avoid her because it will make her think that you don't love her anymore. I also think yah will get back together. Don't stress over it, it will be fine. :)
first you need to have more confidence in youself And when you do build that confidence up. show her that you build that confidence. Other than getting back together that's up to her. If avoiding her in the meantime so you can fix your confidence then do so.
just tell her how much she means to you and that will taker away..tell her why you guys should go back with each other... and if she is with someone else dont take it the wrong way she probably wanted you to be jealous:0
help me i need some boy advice???? easy 10 points
Take it slow but go for it. Try to prove that you are working on your self confidence so she knows that you are trying to do this for her.
But you should try to get back with her because if the spark is still there, there should be nothing to worry about.
please answer my question i need a boys point of view on my situation.
do NOT avoid her! just try to be friends for now and maybe thing'll patch over. you should gain some self confidence and that'll def. help the situation, just know you are a great guy and stuff like(even though i cant say that cuz i dont know u)once you gain some confidence prove to her you have
for now i'd just try to remain friends with her
I could see your problem right through! its not because of low self confidence.. you are too clingy man! and she wanted someone who is not clingy.,, Dont cry or get depressed go ahead with your life like nothing happened and pursue something greater. Dont be clingY! that drives chicks away.. she willl come back to you as soon as she finds out that you have other imp things to do in your life as well.. Remember clingy is the worst thing you could be in life.. no matter what it is
MAN! you need to think first. do you still love her? if so you NEED to go right to her, tell her about your low self confidence! (if she doesnt know) tell her you want her back and you think about her all the time.(if thats true)
you guys seemed like you really liked each other and i would try whatever it takes to get back with her.
If you still love her, then don't avoid her. It will make her think you have lost interest and that you don't love her anymore. If I were you try and get your self confidence up. If she was dating you then she obviously must find you attractive. I hate to say it I don't feel like giving tons of tips on how to get self confidence, so maybe post another question asking how to boost your self confidence or how to get self confidence. If I were you don't avoid her, and gain self confidence so you can get her back because you love her. Let her know it's something you want to work on and also that it's hurtful that she left you for that. Let her know how bad it hurts her dumping you and ask her to put herself in your place.
be confident, don't change the way you are around her, apart from like sexually lol
and defs don't avoid her, its gay, and always shows. ;)
good luck
Send her a special bouquet of roses with a note like: ';I love you always, Please, help me to believe in myself. I cannot do it without you, then your name...';
Wow, that's dumb. Leaving a guy because of his low self confidence.
Well, I was in a similar situation cept the self confidence part. I'd ask the girl straight up, like, is this permanent? Are we still friends? Like, where do you guys stand with each other? Just get some answers. And it's best to stay away from her for a little, yes.
Sometimes spending every single day with each other, can be a burden, no space at all, it would drive me crazy! most likely you can get her back just doing the opposite of what you did before, and when she is around you, treat her good but not overly nice, and go out with other girls as friends that will show her that 1. she can be replaced, 2.you still have what it takes to attract other women, and it shows confidence in yourself..my best wishes
Get higher self confidence.
I can't say if you will be back together. I don't know you or her or the whole situation. Plus I'm not a psychic.
But yeah, boost your self confidence. If you don't get her back, move on and find someone new.
If you love her, show her. The best way to show you have self confidence is to show that you have confidence in the fact that you are competant enough to make her happy. Go get em tiger!!
let her know all that you just said. obviously shes like your world let her know that. and in the meantime work on your self confidence. she obviously thinks your an amazing guy if she told you she loves you. dont avoid her if you want her back talk to her
give her some space then in that time try to man up a bit then oneday call her and ask her if she'd like to go out to dinner or something
try to gain more self confidence and do something to show her that you have. don't do it JUST for her though- also do it for yourself. don't brag about yourself but don't put yourself down when you talk to other people. i think there is a chance you two could be together again. :)
u will get back together but u need 2 show her that u boosted ur self confidence but don't sound desperate doing it.
be everything to her that you were but no kissing or anything be there for her and talk to her about everything or act how you two did when you are daiting but nothing more than friends.
If you want to get back with her you need to sit down and talk to her. A person who loves you loves you flaws and all. At the same time it is important for anyone man or woman to have confidence in themselves and not just their relationship. You cannot put everything into a relationship or another person. You are a man first and foremost so developer a backbone and self confidence but ask her to help you along the way. But at the same time a year is a milestone and if I loved a man I would help him not break up with him to force confidence on him. I believe a woman should be a builder just like a man. Because when a strong foundation is built and people grow together confidence comes with it. Look at the man in the mirror and tell yourself how much you appreciate you daily. It helps. I have been there and done that as a woman and now I am fearless, compassionate, shrewd, firm but yet loving. It starts with self but sometimes as women we can make a man better if he wants to be. Good luck and I wish you the best.
Same thing happened to me but im kinda the girl so yeah. We still talked and stuff and eventually i realized that i did love him and i did want to be with him. IDK if it will work for u but if she really loves u and u love her give it time and if its ment to be it will be.
I would say, try staying friends. If you really want her back, show her what she wants to see- show her you can be confident. Try new things, and don`t give up when you don`t succeed- not everyone is great at something on their first try.
Most importantly: Love yourself before you let anyone else love you.
It seems like a really simple thing to say, but it really matters. It`s incredibly hard to love someone who doubts themselves all the time and looks down upon them self.
If you`re really desperate to get her back, do what I said in the 1st paragraph and show her you can be confident, then, on the side, you will start to learn to love yourself. It takes a while, trust me. But eventually you will get pretty good at it.
What I did when I tried to get over my lack of self confidence is keep my mind occupied with things other than what makes me feel down about myself. Keep yourself busy and avoid things that make you sad about yourself. ;P
-Sorry, that was really long. Lol. Good luck! :]
do not avoid make sure you aknowladge her presence
i think that you will definatly get back together because you can fix your low confidence but if somthing so simple will trigger her into breaking up than i would watch my back to see what bothers her so you can fix it and you guys can love each other as much as you want
hope that helps!!!
build up your self confindece! Be confident that you can get her back and she will appreciate that in you. go tell your woman that you love her and you don't want to be without her! Even if she says no, you were brave and obviously she wasn't the one. there are other fish in the sea. But i bet she will say yes.
Well why would u want her back,she should love you for ur good and bad.Not everyone is perfect,hopefully she will realize it was wrong to dump you for an odd reason and come back to you.(If that's what you want) and if she doesn't come to her senses one day you will meet someone who loves you for your ups and downs.Just remember its her loss good luck!
She left you because of your low self esteem, so what have you done in that department? Have you tried feeling better about yourself, taking charge of your relationship, talking to her about how you will change or what you want in the relationship? When you see her, don't avoid her but show her you are sure of yourself by saying hi and asking how she is doing. Good luck
i'm bored.
Women! What advice could you give me to pass onto my son as far as women?
Don't tell him anything, just lead by example.Women! What advice could you give me to pass onto my son as far as women?
have respect for a woman but she must have respect for you too. if this is not happening, the woman is not for you. if he is young. let him know when it comes to sex always and always cover up even if she says she cant get pregnant.
alot of young women these days want to settle down way too early. let him know if he isn't ready he doesn't have to.
the way you treat women will probably be the way he will treat woman so make sure you are showing him the right way.Women! What advice could you give me to pass onto my son as far as women?
just what chris and She C said , though you might want to add-on:....find one who will reveal `the Rules`......because when we fella`s get close to finding these out , THEY change them again..!
it`s very Frustrating.
have respect for a woman but she must have respect for you too. if this is not happening, the woman is not for you. if he is young. let him know when it comes to sex always and always cover up even if she says she cant get pregnant.
alot of young women these days want to settle down way too early. let him know if he isn't ready he doesn't have to.
the way you treat women will probably be the way he will treat woman so make sure you are showing him the right way.Women! What advice could you give me to pass onto my son as far as women?
just what chris and She C said , though you might want to add-on:....find one who will reveal `the Rules`......because when we fella`s get close to finding these out , THEY change them again..!
it`s very Frustrating.
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