i didn't divorce my husband over this. he was doing the same thing. i believe men do this to live out some fantasy. some of them are bored with the same ole stuff and want fun without physically cheating. not saying its ok cause it bothered the hell out of me too.Is there any women who are going though a divorce that can give me advice?
i agree with this anwer and thats why we are working out our problems and talking things over.
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There is NO EXCUSE for a married person to flirt with other people or cheat on their spouse. PERIOD!!! If there is a problem in the marriage, then the two of you need to sit down and talk about it. It's up to the BOTH of you to work together to solve your problems and save your marriage. If the two of you can't or won't do that and one of you has the desire to be with someone else, because you aren't getting what you want or need from your spouse, then that person needs to file for a divorce BEFORE they get involved with someone else.
Cheating is for selfish people who want their cake and eat it too and they are flat out cowards who can't or won't do what is right for everyone involved.
Tell your husband who wants to blame YOU for what he is doing, that if YOU were getting what you needed in this marriage, you wouldn't have to spy on him to find out that he is a liar and a cheater.
First, Im not a women, sorry but I have personally dealt with many couples seeking divorce because the wifeis accusing the husbnd of exactly what youre saying so i have some experience in this area. Computers or should say websites on computers themselves have caused many a divorce over the past few years. the biggest problem being that the computers are so readily available in homes, work, school, etc and so easy to use. Many wives and a few husbands have confronted their spouses over porn and answering personel ads on here and the spouse says the usual theyll stop which they do at home but go elsewhre to get online til they get so obsessed that they sneak back at home for probably a quick fix and get caught again and this time two problems are happening; 1 on line again and 2. lying about stopping, so then they have had enough and they contact me about divorce. Some wives even give their husbands multi chances before approaching me. It becomes an addiction to their spouses with no way out. So by no means are you alone here in this. Youre not to blame here as men will be men, and no one blames you for being tired of it. Sorry about your marriage and good luck. If there is anymore I could possibly help you with my email address is thunder_wright@yahoo.com and please feel free to email me
First, this is not necessarily a reason to divorce. It's just a wake up call to work on the marriage. Secondly, did he ever try telling you he wasn't getting what he needed? If he didn't, then he is just as much to blame. If he did, then it is your fault. But he should have divorced you before he started the whole flirting with other women thing.
Oh, how typical for cheaters - blame the other person for what they are doing. Why didn't he ask for what he needs? So many marriages break up because one person assumes that the other person is supposed to guess what their spouse needs.
But what is your question? Whether or not to divorce him? It is up to you. Do you need him? If yes, give him the bashing and keep him, if no - divorce him whenever it is convenient for you.
Print the texts if you can. You can photograph the phone and print it if you have a digital camera. If he has already deleted, you won't have the evidence, so try to wait for some more...
I wouldn't discuss this with him at all.
He is a cheater and he is blaming you. Classic.
Added: That is NOT a ';wake-up call to work on your marriage.'; That is pathetically blaming you for his failure to abide by his vow to ';forsake all others.';
He is an idiot! Classic. He wasn't ready for marriage. So he blames you. Wake up and smell the coffee. He needs to take responsibility for his actions.
by state laws..this would not be a valid reason for divorce..texting another woman..apparently he has issues..needs to work on them..and you yourself should consider counseling with your husband to see if you two can work things out first..
Whats your question?
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