Any women out there have any advice or comments?

My now ex who I had been with for five years got involved with a much younger girl shortly after he ended things with me. I'm 40,he's 50 and she's only 23. She's a bartender at a bar he goes to and I also worked there until this happened. It really killed my self-esteem and I was heart broken over the breakup to begin with. I don't know if he's going through a mid-life crisis. He does have a drinking problem also. He has recently contacted mAny women out there have any advice or comments?
No one can have a correct comment to your particular situation.


Any of us, man or woman, can get through something similar at some time in our life.


The issue is known JUST by yourself - what could cause this situation, which are all your commune problems, how high are you holding your feelings one for each other,


BUT


you must think NOW at WHAT (if any) did you sacrifice into your life for him, or vice versa. And this way, probably you shall think more clearly about if you really want to continue the same way your life, if you want him back and in which terms - shall it be the same situation for both of you, it already isn't!





I think it's not in question an error, but the motivation, what is it behind that error and what do someone for the other one after all into a relationship.





I consider this argument ';he's going through a mid-life crisis'; as being VERY SELFISH.


What about a woman whose man has erection problems, and she is full of hormons after giving birth and she's literally scratching %26amp; yelling at the walls because she thinks she cannot talk this problem quite directly to him? All she do is to keep her man's self-esteem high, and to help him in all his ways ... Should she go with another man, just because she desperately needs to?





Let's be serious. Everything is but in a character. The same with your loved one; forget the mid-life crisis. There is always an issue of communication.





And usually when they do not want to talk about something, there is something putrid in there, or anyhow you shall have not to win something over it - this is all the time when men do not want to talk, or they say something but they do something different.





He does have a drinking problem , you also say.


If I were you, I would say ';WE do have .....'; cause any problem is the couple's problem.Any women out there have any advice or comments?
Men hate the aging process. They want to remain young forever. Getting old is not for sissies!!





With that being said, he is probably trying to re-capture his youth... but, she will have VASTLY different viewpoints on the world, life, EVERYTHING. Depending on his values (and, it looks like his little head took over thinking for the one on his neck at that time...), he will soon tire of her. Or, he may try to turn back the clock by being something he really isn't - a younger man.





He calling you now becuase you're the ';old, Comfy'; slippers that fit...





You have a rough road ahead. I wouldn't take him back... but, I would mess with him for awhile... payback is a *****...
okay, if he think he really likes this 23 year old hooker than i a true fact that its NEVER GONNA LAST WITH THEM! and if it breaks off with them and he comes back to you, dont go back to him. sorry, but its not worth it at all! strat dating guys your aage, you'll be so much happier!
he recently contacted me................ and said what??? Look you must be gorgeos and have all the qualities a 23 year old has don't put your self down.



just move on ur a 40 year old women screw that 50 year old geazer








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Move on with your life. He's a loser.
If he drinks all the time you should get a better man. Really. he doesn't sounld v. good