Are there any resources or advice for women trying to get custody of their kids when exhusband has lawyers?

Not if you live in Louisiana! I found that out the hard way. Any other state probably has decent Legal Aid attorneys that can help you. Google Legal Aid and your state and see what pops up. Also you can try to talk to some law students at a university near you and get help filing your own papers with the courts. I never understood WHY Judges seem to favor the party that does have a lawyer vs the one with out a lawyer. In my custody case, I was the primary parent and didn't screw anything up so I felt I shouldn't have to pay for an attorney. So I didn't. And there came a point where I desperately needed one. And could not get one unless I could pull a few grand out of my butt. Which I could not at that time. But you actually CAN get all the forms and fill them out yourself and submit them to the court (clerk of court) and it will be totally legal. Actually, if you scribble something in crayon on a napkin, and you pay to have it submitted to the courts, the judge Will see it. Of course he's throw that out!, but it's just an example. What I finally did since I could not find a lawyer, I copied my ex's paperwork! Like if he got his lawyer to file contempt of court against me I would scan those actual papers (the copies I got of them) into the computer, and change all the info but leave the exact same format and legal wording. So if it said some kind of stuff like ';the plaintiff is asking for sole legal guardianship of the said minor child, Thomas 'Lastname' '; I would say the same thing. ';The Defendant (or Plaintiff, depending on the court date, it changed!!) is asking for sole legal guardianship of the said minor child, Thomas lastname';. And you have to have all that blah blah blah legal junk they add in there, usually at the end of the paperwork. But that way you can keep the case number, format and their legal wording and all. Get it notarized, submit it to the courts. It can cost a good bit, a few hundred dollars, but not anything like an attorney would cost. If you are on child support, I suggest you are current and paid up before you try to get custody. You need to be able to prove you have a steady job, childcare, decent home, and are drug free. That will help a lot. Good luck to you, and don't be afraid of the legal system. There is a law library in every big city. Go to it and ask someone to help point you to the books with custody and parental rights and such. And if you need paperwork to submit to court, you can also get it there, free or at low cost.Are there any resources or advice for women trying to get custody of their kids when exhusband has lawyers?
You know what i went through this. I hate both my parents for putting me through their bulshit its not your choice let the kids decide they are smarter than you think give them a chance to choose. And if its not you ya know what tough luck the only thing you can do is be there for them. they are human beings just like you they are not some pets that you fight over.


Its your fault for having a kid no one told you dont use protection.


Dont bring stress and drama into your kids lives i swear i resent both my parents for all their bulshitAre there any resources or advice for women trying to get custody of their kids when exhusband has lawyers?
The husband doesnt automatically win because he has a lawyer.


Things that are considered are. Who has the kids right now? Whose taken the kids to the park, who has always helped with homework. Whose always been there for them on a day to day basis.


If there is no criminal history for the mother, the next thing will be, who can support the kids easier. This is about the kids. Who is working, who has insurance for the kids.


Judges do not like to remove the kids from the mothers home for small things, its more of a huge thing, like abuse or drugs, excessive drinking or lack of provable care.


If they are considering putting the kids with him, then you will owe child support, and you will be chasing them down every other weekend, or each weekend, or every three days however you request and get the terms set. Ask for half the year custody if your not going to win full custody. Then no one pays child support, but one must provide insurance for the children.


You can try to contact legal aid and ask what capacity they work with these days. Ive known no one ever that got help from them though, I hear about legal aid society, but I dont know what they actually do for anyone.


Just be well dressed, and versed, quiet and polite, speak to the point, and you should be fine. Bring with you all things that show you take care of your kids, bring in school records and report cards to show their attending and doing well. Bring in shot records, Dr visits etc etc. Just have anyting you can think of in a file to have handy if the judge wants to see something.


Bring in notorised statements from neighbors, landlords, and family about you as a person, written testomonies about you and your family.


I wish you well. Men do not always win, so relax, be prepared, get things in place that migth need taking care of and politely handle court. The judge is looking for a stable parent, and hes looking at you being that parent first, not your ex. PS, dont bring up anything bad about your ex, unless you have say, copies of arrests paperwork where your ex had hit you or the kids. Do not bring up anything you cant prove on paper, or that the judge cant see on a computer such as DUIs. No hearsay, just like court tv, they need to see proof, and never lie or stretch the truth, they can see honesty in someones face by their mannerisms.
probably have to get a lawyer as well