Married women, what advice do you wish you had been given in the early months of your relationship?

Do you have any advice to give a young woman in the early months of a new relationship? What do you wish someone had told you?Married women, what advice do you wish you had been given in the early months of your relationship?
Marriage is living for your spouse.


Sometimes you give more than you get.


Do something special EVERY DAY for your spouse. No matter how tiny.


Never ever stop having sex or withhold it.


Do not ';punish';.


Do not get even.


Do not lie.


Trust.


Be trustworthy.


Communication is a work in progress forever. Never let that get bad.


EDIT


As someone else said - don't sweat the small stuff. Let little things go. Choose your battles.





NEVER EVER EVER fight in public.Married women, what advice do you wish you had been given in the early months of your relationship?
Don't expect him to be romantic. Romance gets thrown out with the birdseed (or rice for those who still use rice.) Also, drop a bean into a gallon jar every time you make love for a year. After the first year, take a bean out for every time you make love and see how many are left by the time you die of old age.
Pay attention to problems with in-laws on either side. A problem now means a problem for life, unfortunately.





Also, life is long.. don't rush. And don't go against your gut for other people.
I wish someone had told my ex-wife that everything is not an issue. And to show some respect for her husband. And to not look to find fault. And to show some appreciation. And to...
Start now building your relationship with your boyfriend/fiance's mother... whatever type of relationship you establish in the early days will carry over to your marriage... I've seen friends be total pushovers and then once they're married and they want to be respected etc it's impossible.





In my experience, especially during our engagement we set boundaries and were firm with our decisions. I think this is a great thing to start early in the relationship with one another's parents. I'm not suggesting you be disrespectful... just set boundaries.
Be totally, completely honest about any little thing even if the truth hurts. In the long run, you'll notice if your relationship will last. Don't expect him to read your mind.
i wish someone told me not to ***** about the small things, marriage is not a bed of roses, and that i would work on my relationship about 99% of the time.





(i love my hubby though)