Need some advice from other women with boyfriends in the military, mine is in the navy, how hard is it to deal

My boyfriend is in the navy and he just left for deployment, we passed up the option of getting married now because we're both fairly young. However we've been hearing a lot of talk about being married before you go in because it makes it easier on the relationship for the both of us. If any military girlfriend/spouse would like to comment and give me some advice I'd appreciate it.Need some advice from other women with boyfriends in the military, mine is in the navy, how hard is it to deal
Waiting is a good step in the right direction because it is making sure that you can both handle the separation and the relationship. If you are in true love and have lots of trust then it should work. This is a test to make sure it can. You may be limited to what information you can get on where they are, port calls, etc.. but that is up to the CO of the ship. Some will allow it and others will not. Did he give your information to the ombudsman? Are you in the town he left from and in contact with the FRG? Those things can help you.





Just send him lots of letters (make sure you put the # on them like #1, #2, etc...) so then he knows what ones to open first. Emails may and may not go through. Even # those in case they come in different order and are confusing. Sometimes they may come back to you as undeliverable because of the system. make sure what ever you send him isn't questionable or giving out too much information because the emails can be shut off if OPSEC is broken. Send him small care packages, nothing perishable at first until you know how long it takes to get to him. Sometimes it can get there fast and other times weeks. Remember that you can't always talk to each every day and that just helps your relationship grow.





Just because he is in the military doesn't mean he will cheat on you or you cheat on him. Lots of relationships have lasted throughout the years in the military long before emails and phone calls were an option. Heck I went over 90 days between contacts one time because of deployment.Need some advice from other women with boyfriends in the military, mine is in the navy, how hard is it to deal
My husband is on the Navy. However before that we dated for two years. In those two years I saw him maybe a total of two months. I did not live where he was stationed because he was deployed to sicicly (sp?) and then Kuwait. I spent alot of time with friends and family. We wrote each other constantly. He called when he could but I was understanding when he couldn't. Now that we are married I spend alot of time with friends. We write each other constantly. He calls when he can but i am understanding when he doesn't. The only difference between dating him and being married is if something happens to him I am the first notified and I live with him.





If you feel you are not ready to be married then do not get married. The best advice I can give you is while he is the most important thing to you, do not make him the center of your universe. When he leaves make sure you have something to keep you fulfilled. Whether it is your job, or volunteering or a hobby. If you don't it will make his being gone so much harder.
Being married doesn't matter. My 15 month deployment resulted in several divorces, My wife took the whole thing in stride, and I know some guys who came home and got married and some who lost girl-friends. Your relationship is YOUR relationship. Being married doesn't change what may or will happen. If the deployment is going to be hard on you two it will be no matter what being married doesn't make it any easier.
military marriages dont last usually i mean that isnt for everyone but alot of them dont last usually people marry for more money or to move off the barracks...if you are going to get married my advice is wait until he gets out or atleast gets home especially in the navy they are gone so long out of the year most arent faithful....coming from a female who served in the navy WAIT because women throw themselves at these men thinking they have money or they can offer them sumthing if you are both young wait until atleast he has done a couple tours and is settled these guys have never been anywhere and to see other races of women is sumthing new and you know what men do to new toys???? whatever you decide to do good luck...BTW I HAVE A MARRIED SAILOR EMAILING ME EVERYDAY FROM KOSAVO TRYING TO CHEAT ON HIS WIFE WITH ME...NO GOOD THEY HAVE BEEN MARRIED 10 YEARS
My relationship was doomed before it started. My sister's husband who is in the navy had arranged for me to talk to this very nice guy. We exchanged emails and where planning to meet when he was involved in an accident on the ship. He had just gotten out of the infirmary and was lucky enough to write me an email and then he had a seizure and was air lifted off of the ship and we hadn't talked since and I am not even able to find out if he is okay or not. My sister says that their is no way to email or contact anyone in Naval hospitals and that he could very well have died and suggested I meet another one of my brother in laws ship mates. I am crushed and don't wish to ever look at a Naval man as a potential date again.





My advice if you love him than get a ring and hold on tight and stay true.
I want to commend you guys for realizing you are too young to get married. It really shows your maturity. With that said, stay in contact as much as possible. Phone, e-mail, and write letters that you send by snail mail. I dated a Marine for a year (later married him and it didn't work out) but we wrote long letters and I kept those in my purse...they went everywhere with me. LOL....It was hard, but I sent care packages and he sent flowers. If you really love the guy, you can do this. Also, if something happens that you want to tell him about but think you might forget...keep a small journal..jot your thoughts down and the refer back to it when talking or writing to him. It's very important to keep those lines of communication open.





Good luck!





p.s. I'm now married to an ex-Navy man. I love him to bits! :)
well im a airforce wife and my husband is deployed right now and i havent heard from him in 3 days! a deployment is hard no matter if your married or not and if yall do decide to get married and move into together and everything you will enjoy your time being a military wife!
its tough but just hang in there! im engaged to a marine and i went through his boot camp, and another 6 months of training. we knew that if we could make it through tha we could make it through anything! good luck!
As long as you give him a little oral support he will be all right!