NOTHING pissed me off more then being told ';you're to small to be that pregnant';. I was VERY think before I got pregnant, I am not going to get huge! I put on the required weight, ate healthy most of the time (except my donut binges), and my baby was the right size!
It made me feel like I had to room to complain over my discomfort.Have you noticed that someone that has NEVER had a child LOVE to give advice to pregnant women?
Maybe your just an arrogant *****
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Jessie why are you proving her right? I wouldnt give advice on something I have not gone through personally or done myself. Would YOU ever take flying lessons from a person who has zero flying hours stacked up? And yes, I'm pregnant too. She's right about the hormones, better watch what you write!!
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Jessie? How old are you? Eight?
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I agree with Jessica. My friends have come and ASKED me for advice! Every single person I know has had a baby with the exception of my husband and I. I have been present for Dozens of pregnancies, and coached a few too. I'm no slouch. Don't be so snobbish.
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some people that do not have kids have had close friends or relatives have children so they have seen the pregnancy part...geeze they are just trying to help...i would hate to be around you.
I agree with you. It chaps my a$#% when people offer unwanted advice to pregnant women or even when I was strolling with my baby in the supermarket. My favorite was when my little guy was a newborn, he HATED the stroller but I would have to go to the pharmacy or market and we just had to suffer through 20 minutes of crying. I would have JUST fed and changed him, but people would walk up and tell me he had a dirty diaper or that he was hungry. One lady I LOVED though....she could see I was rushing through to get him out of the store as quickly as possible, and she said ';Don't feel bad, honey...babies cry. That's what they do. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about it.';
By the time he was 3 months old, he didn't mind the stroller any more and we got out more often (for the first 3 months I actually got groceries delivered to avoid the confrontations in the market!!).
The thing is, I often considered saying something flip back to people offering stupid or unwanted advice (like ';I can't stand your child, why would I take your parenting advice?';), but I usually kept quiet.
When I was pregnant, I would just respond with ';my doctor is okay with what I am doing and my weight. But if you want to take over as my OBGYN, let me know when you're ready to schedule my next ultrasound.'; Okay, so that's flip, but hey....I was grumpy from hormones.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, i cut someone off in a heart beat when they offer advice on anything even if they had a child. I just told them; don't really care to hear it, or every pregances are different, keep it to you self, (and my favorite), It's not my fault you were fat. Use your homones as an excuse to say what you want to shut them up, if your dr says your fine them who cares about there opinion.
Perhaps some of these women who give advice may have been pregnant before, have lost the child, and may be offering advice based off of whatever they may have done incorrectly?
You don't have to be pregnant to know common sense. Nor do you have to have common sense to be pregnant.
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Just wait until you see that they are also an AUTHORITY on raising kids...and how you're NOT doing it right.
LOL..... just ignore them!
I appreciate the advice I get from my friends, those of whom have kids and those who don't. It's great to have all of the different perspectives.
And remember, any bozo can get pregnant but not everyone has the intelligence to do the right thing when pregnant or, for that matter, to be a good and nurturing parent.
I suggest you lighten up.
I think its not their fault! no one on earth want to harm a pregnant women and when they give advise, then they think it's their duty to tell u.. I know that it may be very annoying, I'm 10 weeks pregnant but I don't get angry yet.. let them talk.. just ignore them or say that u know a lot about pregnancy and u r fine (but thanks for ur advise) lol
don't get angry honey its not worth it
I tell many people not to smoke when thier pregnant.
People who have had children probably will not make any criticisms because most people when they are pregnant do not do thier best to look after thier baby.
If you want to make sure your looking after the baby to the best of your knowledge, then I think you should see an specialist involved in pregnancy called an antenatal specialist.
They will tell you what you should eat and how to behave properly.for the health of the baby etc.
ive noticed that on here too!
-- due to their ';advice';.. the actual baby can die!
However i also agree with the first answerer.
That burned me up too when I was pregnant.
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Sorrie,I may never personally carried a child but i have helped raise many. And I hate it also, expecially when i am with a person who is pg when people talk about food, what to eat and what not, because with each person the experience is differnt and dont you know that a person only needs about 300 or so more calaries aday, and i am not an emotional wacko but my moods change and when you have some one with extra hormones raging, they eithe tend to cry or get ticked and fast. and each of those people that comment, they are only going from personal experience, that can be said about any thing, your size, not your weight, i look smaller than what i weight or what people think that should look like, you see, people only go by what they know, and unfortunately they go by what is on tv???
LOL! isnt it funny when they do that? I hate when people tell me things to do with my 6 month old, i always say to them ';you do realize i have done this before right? i do have a 6 year old as well.'; LOL. but just smile, ignore their comments and keep rolling. They dont mean any harm when they say such things. LMAO! they dont realize their opinion doesnt count.
It gets worse after your baby is born.
';Your breast feeding too much';,'; not enough';,'; you hold your baby too much';, ';let your baby cry';, etc. It never ends, and will always upset you. You can smile politely or you can tell them to shut up and have their own child. Either way, it will always happen. Hope it makes you feel better to know that you are not alone.
Some people just try to hard to know everything, and some just want to be pregnant and maybe they cant so they are acting like they are you? I don't know...Heck others just might want your baby to be healthy...You dont have to be pregnant to read... I read a lot of books to prepare myself and when my sister was prego I helped her out a lot... Just use the advice in the best way that you can...
just do what you got to do
Welcome to the first and not the last of unwanted advise. Its just going to get worse. Just try to say something like ';yes, i want to starve this baby'; with a sarcastic grin. This will shut them up.
That's funny, I've never really thought about it like that.
im not preg, or never was but i find it so ****** annoying when people do that. they did that to my sister in law and i felt like punching my own family members in there faces. like my far cousin was said '; shes to small to be preg'; im like **** you retarded, you been with youre girl for like 10 years and have 3 kids and you dont wanna even marry her, you got youre own ****** problems to worry about, and dont be jealous that my sister in law is smaller then youre fat asss '; girlfriend'; theres no set weight or hight to have a kid so shut the hell up....
people grow up to believe what they want, and if its not to their liking ITS wrong- thats what just gets under my skin the most. if you cant say anything nice about someone fine, but keep it your self.
Oh....I hated that too...or I had people who were trying to be really nice and they would bring me a brownie or a piece of cake and said they thought I might like a piece...so to spare their feelings b/c they were just being nice I would eat it.....man i gained a ton of weight...but the worst were the strangers who thought they could stop me and give me advice or try to feel my belly....helllooo...thats my belly...lol....oh well.....
i dont understand ur question.
Honey, things like that you just have to let it go. I sounds like you are the complainer, they want to help that is all.
Well I have never had a child, but my friend was pregnant and sometimes women who have never been pregnant know better because we have a better perspective.
If you don't like the advice then keep your legs closed!
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